Is It Really All About The Benjamins Dough?

Listen, how many of us women would love to have a man to just come home and lay all the bread on the table? Yea, Cuban bread. Wait, what? That old saying that he got to bring something to the table did not mean bread, literally. We’re talking about dinero, moola, dollar, dollar bill y’all them benjamins baby! And why not?

Some men’s way of thinking about bringing it to the table is their sex game, let’s keep it all the way real. Boy bye! Your nature rising is not going to make my credit score rise. As women we have got to demand more before we get into a relationship. I tell ya hindsight is 20/20. Love oh Love, so many people use your name in vain, in the words of Musiq Soulchild.  Love does not pay the bills. Don’t get it twisted, I’m not saying it isn’t essential to a relationship but does it really? When’s the last time you told rent, car note, electric and food I’m just gone pay it with Love? I instill in my daughters that if you decide to get in a relationship make sure that person is bringing more to the table than what you have. Someone who is going to elevate you and then you two can elevate together. Be honest now, when you meet someone what are you looking for initially? You are looking for what he or she can do for you so let’s keep it one hundred. Then love evolves, it grows. Hence the saying fall in and out of love, why because it’s an emotion. Come on somebody!

So, is it really all about the Benjamins Dough? No not really. But without it nowadays what can we do? I’ll wait. As a woman who has been married 20 years I know a lil something, something not an expert but knowledgeable through my own experiences. And that old saying if I knew then what I know now, yea right I knew it then just didn’t put it into action. My outlook is so much different now than it was 20 years ago. We have got to stop settling because of love only. Then all of a sudden you’re stuck in a 20 year relationship, in the same place where you started 20 years ago. Doesn’t make sense. So if he ain’t coming with them Benjamins Dough, he can keep making stale bread.


Who Said Better Late Than Never!?

Well it’s Monday morning the day after Superbowl Sunday and if you’re like me you know what that means. Tired and sleepy. But, a lady has to do what a lady has to do and get that m-o-n-e-y! In a  few months it will be my birthday and I want to party like it’s l999. No, for real that was a good year for me, young and ripe. LOL! With 4 children already I might add, but that’s another story.

For my birthday my girls and I plan on going to New Orleans, a girls trip. In my forty plus years of living I have not been to Louisiana and I’m excited about it. My young ladies are ages 22 and 27 and I always get that “you don’t look like you have kids that old” saying. Well that’s what happens when you start early to get them out the way. The excitement of it all actually comes because this will be the first time we will have gone on a trip to spend mother and daughter time together, in which I’m not proud to say.  It should not have taken this long to begin to do something like this with my girls. I guess there is always a season for everything, right? Well the season begins in 2018 baby, mama gonna get her sexy back! Don’t believe me just watch!

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me! Sometimes you just wanna talk. As I contemplated on the decision to create a blog I knew I had some things to say. My story of beauty, strength and survival in all aspects of my life to be told. From cancer survival, being in a twenty year marriage, not living my life to the fullest thus far to what I plan on changing as a woman in her mid forties. So if you’re ready to talk, for real, buckle up and enjoy the ride!


Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton